An autism profile called Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

Each person is different, but it also seems that there are different profiles of autism, such as PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), a name that doesn't seem to describe it fully.



I have recently researched PDA for personal reasons, which you will discover if you watch a video I have created on this topic (at https://youtu.be/il8D9LYp9TA). The PDF with the presentation on which the video is based can be found at https://drive.google.com/file/d/1jAW8MBsv1gxfrbaJYqrGjly0AB5IIbuZ/view?usp=drive_link

There is a second video on the stages of PDA meltdowns, what to do and how to help when our partner has high anxiety. The second video is at https://youtu.be/Mbi6IIiUIbA and the PDF I have used is at https://drive.google.com/file/d/1S5_dHt3ujovPXVeX8OfFwjLnOuWd17so/view?usp=drive_link 



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