Quick tip: if we get angry/upset...
In spite of our best intentions, sometimes other people land on or push our buttons and our brain reacts. I am sure you have heard about the FIGHT, FLIGHT, and FREEZE responses (some add two more: FAWN, which is a placating mode through trying to please the other, and FIX). One simple and quick trick (if we remember) is to try to shrink the other person in our imagination. See that person as if they were getting further and further away, smaller and smaller. That will usually trick our brain into believing that the perceived threat is over, and our nervous system will relax enough for us to access better resources. (I posted the above trick on 07/10/2022. Here is an update) I believe that emotions are messengers and they will probably continue nudging us until we acknowledge the message. Sometimes the message may be physiological (our liver may not be working properly, we may have eaten too many carbs, we may be hungry, we may have overeaten, or we may be physically exhausted). Sometim