Resilient Loving

Many partners and spouses don't even want to contemplate the possibility of being autistic.  One way to work around that, which offers us a common language without using any terms related to autism and neurodiversity, may be to take a fun personality test such as the free one at  https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test Your partner may accept that they are a "Logician" or a "Debater" much more readily.  The test may also give you an idea of how much or how little self-awareness your partner has. If you do yours in your partner's presence, it may give you a chance to compare different perceptions. I did my test in January this year. According to the test, I am a Turbulent Adventurer . Monotonous, rigid routine? Not for me!!! I like the 16 personalities site because they send me emails taylored to my type every now and then (not too many, thank God!). I find them useful, too. For the record, I have no affiliation whatsoever with the 16 personalit

Each person is different, but it also seems that there are different profiles of autism, such as PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), a name that doesn't seem to describe it fully. I have recently researched PDA for personal reasons, which you will discover if you watch a video I have created on this topic (at https://youtu.be/il8D9LYp9TA ). The PDF with the presentation on which the video is based can be found at https://drive.google.com/file/d/1jAW8MBsv1gxfrbaJYqrGjly0AB5IIbuZ/view?usp=drive_link There is a second video on the stages of PDA meltdowns, what to do and how to help when our partner has high anxiety. The second video is at https://youtu.be/Mbi6IIiUIbA and the PDF I have used is at https://drive.google.com/file/d/1S5_dHt3ujovPXVeX8OfFwjLnOuWd17so/view?usp=drive_link